Things not to say to a woman

So, you finally score yourself a date with what appears to be a nice lady you met on an online dating site. You set a date to meet her at a local coffee shop. You think you have it made; after all, she saw your profile photos, read your short profile about what a nice guy you are and she actually agreed to go on a date with you. But wait! What do you say to her? I mean, aside from bragging about how much you make, and how nice of a guy you are and how much you gave to charity last year, what words will you utter? (Please not that I say this with sarcasm. You shouldn't actually brag or boast about yourself, but I'll leave that for a later article.)

If you're not sure what to say, let DGM help you with a few items YOU SHOULD NOT say to a woman on your first date, or second one, or perhaps ever!

1. "Do you want to hear about my EX?" While we all have them, including your date, it's perhaps a subject you want to skip all together. Your date isn't going to be interested in your past relationships and especially your EX-girlfriend or wife for that matter. Make your date important and talk about her likes. If you do talk about your EX(s), you might just find yourself on the date, alone.


2. Anything that sounds like you're trying to impress her. I had a male friend onetime who would go on dates and try to impress the ladies by telling them how much he earned, what kind of car he drove, and the part of town he lived in. As a matter of fact, he talked so much about himself that he never learned anything about his dates and actually forgot the name of one of his dates he was with. Do you think that would impress the lady? I don't think so. It's best to not do all the talking about your self and mainly listen to your date talk. Ask her questions about what she likes. Women don't really want to hear all about the guy, even if they tell you it's OK, try and avoid bragging about yourself.


3. Avoid Negativity or Complaining. We all know people who irritate us. Maybe its a co-worker, a neighbor, or family member. Maybe you hate your job, but it's best kept to yourself. A woman doesn't want to hear a man complain or speak negative of others; especially about your dates friends or family. They may wonder what you say about them to your friends when they are not around.


4. "How many guys have you slept with?" Um, lets not ask this question. Sure, its on your mind and you want to be the first guy she sleeps with, but in reality, you're probably not and she may not give you an accurate number. So leave this topic alone unless you want to end the date real quick. Finally, do you really want to know anyway?


5. "Do you like me?" If you have to ask, then chances are she probably won't after you ask this question. It shows a lack of confidence and women are turned of by men who lack confidence.


6. "What do you want to do tonight?" Women don't like men who are indecisive. The like men with a plan. So, when you do call her to ask her out, have a plan ready. In fact, have a back-up plan just in case she doesn't like the first option.


7. "Can we go out sometime?" Lets talk about the confidence thing again. If you have to ask her if you can take her out, chances are she's going to say no. Women like men with confidence; men who can take charge. Asking her permission to go out is a dating death sentence. Just assume you have the date and ask her out. You can say something like, "Hey, lets get a cup of coffee", or "Lets meet for dinner on Friday."


8. "Can I kiss you?" You should never ask a woman if you can kiss her as women will tell you that a man should never ask a woman if they can kiss her. Again, women like men who take charge, not over bearing, but in control. If you feel the date went well adn you get signs she wants to kiss, then give her a kiss; you may want to hold off on the tongue action on the first few dates though.


9. Any future talk. On your fist few dates, you may want to avoid talking about having a future with her. I mean, topics like getting married, having children, buying a home together, should probably be avoided. Keep the conversation in the "here and now". Just as men get turned off by this kind of conversation, so do women. "Future" conversation is best left until you have established a relationship where you both know you want to be together.


10. Anything Vulgar. Remember, you're not with the guys. Avoid cursing or being vulgar. While the lady you might be on a date with may smile and laugh, she is doing so nervously. You're guaranteed not to get to a second date if you're vulgar toward her or anyone else.